Be it the lost of love interest, an unfaithful act, an unplanned child, and abuse. Divorce is one of several current causes of homelessness and poverty in the U.S. As the effects of divorce generally mean the combined income that the couple has been living off of has been halved making each other’s bills much more difficult to pay. In addition to that, the now divorced married couple lose out on the tax benefits of being married, as well as figuring out who takes possession of whichever item the household they shared had. And generally those who get divorced that had moved in together must find a new place to call home. In my parent’s case my mother remained in her families house that was passed onto her that my father and I lived at, while my father decided to go out and look for a new home. Rather than paying rent, he decided that he would want to purchase a home of his own in a neighborhood suited to his liking. However, this became a quite expensive and tedious process as he needed to find a realtor, receive a loan to pay for the home, and to find a house that he would basically live in till the end of his days. About a year after the divorce and paying child-care payments to my mother he was able to find and afford a house in Yuma about 20-30 minutes away from my mothers home, which was around the time where I had to choose once again who I would mainly live with. This was important as whoever claimed me on their taxes would be on the receiving end of child support, making bills easier to be paid. I decided that I would mainly live with my father and occasionally visit my mother every couple of weeks.
As I lived with my father I began to realize the true changes and effects of divorce. Unlike my mother, my father was not really the bargain shopper, and rarely went to the store to purchase groceries to cook with, and when he did he usually bought 2 for 1 whole chickens, tomato sauce, and spaghetti noodles. And since he only had so much money to spend after dipping into his savings to pay off the loan and mortgage for the home, he would have to buy inexpensive fast food for dinner on most occasions. For about 6 or so months I had an off and on diet of burritos, pizza, bagels, spaghetti, and roasted chicken. And whenever he could he brought home salad bags from the store as well as fruits, and if they were in season he asked some of his farmer friends if he could pick some melons that would be considered extra from their crops. After the 6 months though he was back on his feet and was able to purchase healthier foods for him and I to eat. But throughout that 6 month period he felt bad that he couldn’t feed his child nutritional foods, have a savings fund for my college education, and was sorry that he had to divorce my mother.